When you and your spouse get married, all you see are white picket fences and great times on the horizon.
You think that you’re going to spend the rest of your days with this person and no matter what you both will be there for each other.
But, as life hits your marriage, it seems the relationship crumbles faster by the day until you find yourself in a place where you have to make the decision to fight for your marriage or walk away.
It’s funny, because no one ever thinks they will find themselves in these shoes, nor does anyone really show you how to avoid being in this situation.
I will never forget being in the Army, and my wife and I were going through some really tough times in our marriage.
One of the men I worked with said to me, if you can get to five years you will be alright.
We had only been married about three years at that point, and all I could think to myself is, how am I going to make it two more years like this???…..
Divorce is a difficult and painful process that affects not only the individuals involved but also their families, friends, and children. While divorce may be the only option for some couples, it is generally we at Bulletproof marriages try and encourage folks away from it.
Divorce has a variety of negative impacts on those involved, today we will talk about six of those negative impacts:
- Emotional Trauma: Divorce can be emotionally devastating for both parties involved, leading to feelings of grief, depression, and anxiety. The emotional trauma of divorce can be long-lasting, affecting not only the individuals involved but also their children and extended family.
- Financial Instability: Divorce can also have a significant impact on the financial stability of both parties. The cost of legal fees, property division, and child support can be substantial, leaving both parties struggling financially.
- Negative Impact on Children: Divorce can have a lasting impact on children, leading to feelings of abandonment, insecurity, and confusion. Studies have shown that children of divorced parents are more likely to struggle in school, suffer from depression and anxiety, and experience relationship difficulties later in life.
- Undealt With Issues: Couples who run to divorce to solve their marital problems often never deal with the negative attributes they brought into the relationship. Marriage statistics prove this as sixty percent of second marriages fail, and seventy percent or more of third-time marriages also end up in divorce. Why? Simple, instead of fixing themselves (the only person we can truly fix, BTW) they run into another relationship carrying the same baggage or issues and ultimately they find themselves in the same situation.
- Increased Risk of Health Problems: The stress and trauma of divorce can also lead to physical health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, and depression.
- Breakdown of Community: Divorce can also contribute to the breakdown of communities. Family and social networks can be disrupted, and the support systems that couples once relied on can be lost.
While divorce may be necessary in some cases, it is generally regarded as a negative outcome due to its many negative consequences.
Emotional trauma, financial instability, negative impact on children, social stigma, increased risk of health problems, and the breakdown of communities are all reasons why divorce should be the last option.
It is essential to seek coaching and support when considering divorce to mitigate the negative consequences and help those involved navigate this difficult process as smoothly as possible.