Life is filled with its peaks and valleys.

When a couple sets off into marriage they must endure those ups and down together.

Often, along the way, they end, up hurting each one another, or allowing past traumas and hurts to influence how they love.

Whether spouses are influenced to hurt each other due to the stresses of married life, or something that happened before they joined their union; in order to move into higher ground forgiveness must happen.

Forgiveness is an important part of any relationship, and it’s especially important when it comes to forgiving your spouse. Whether it’s a small argument or a more significant issue, learning to forgive your spouse can help you move forward and strengthen your relationship.

In this blog post, we will explore seven practical tips to help you forgive your spouse.

  1. Acknowledge your feelings: The first step to forgiveness is acknowledging your feelings. It’s natural to feel angry, hurt, or resentful after a disagreement or argument. Take some time to process your emotions before attempting to forgive your spouse.
  2. Communicate: Communicate with your spouse and express how their actions or words made you feel. This can help you both understand each other’s perspectives and work towards a resolution.
  3. Focus on the present: Don’t dwell on the past. Instead, focus on the present and the steps you can take to move forward. Letting go of past hurt can help you both move on and strengthen your relationship.
  4. Practice empathy: Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and try to understand their perspective. This can help you see things from their point of view and find common ground.
  5. Let go of grudges: Holding onto grudges can weigh you down and prevent you from moving forward. Let go of any grudges or resentment you may have towards your spouse.
  6. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and behaviors. Recognize your role in the situation and work towards making positive changes in yourself.
  7. Get a marriage coach: If you’re struggling to forgive your spouse, and the past just keeps holding your marital progression back, consider having a professional marriage coach help you both have the union desired. A coach can provide you with the tools and guidance you need to forgive and move forward. Every athlete that I know has coaches for different aspects of training. Speed coaches, strength and conditioning coaches… You get the picture. Marriage is no different, a good coach will help you get where you want to go faster, smoother, all while building your confidence up.

Look, I get it, forgiving your spouse can be a difficult process, but it’s essential for a healthy relationship.

By acknowledging your feelings, communicating, focusing on the present, practicing empathy, letting go of grudges, taking responsibility, and seeking professional help if needed, you can learn to forgive your spouse and strengthen your relationship.

Remember that forgiveness is a process, and it may take time and effort. Be patient, kind, and willing to work together to find a resolution that works for both of you.